It is always a sad fact in life that there is a danger that a
relationship will end in a break up. No matter how much we would love to
believe those fairy tales or Disney movies, breaking up when you are no
longer compatible is inevitable. Of course, that is not to say that you
do not try as hard as you can to salvage the relationship. However, it
could be that breaking up is your only option. Whatever the reasons,
breaking up is a terrible thing - no matter if you are the person who is
dumped or the person who is doing the breaking up.
If it has to be done, though, try to do it as nicely as possible.
After all, there are many ways in which you can actually soften the
blow. Your boyfriend's ego will already be taking a beating because you
are breaking up with him. There is no point tormenting him or making him
feel even more terrible than he is already feeling.
The first step to break up with your boyfriend nicely lies with you
yourself. You need to be absolutely 100% clear that this is the path
that you want to take. There is no point telling yourself that you want
to break up and then caving in afterwards. If you are really sure about
breaking up with your boyfriend then do it with no thought of backing
out at the very last minute. This will only prolong the pain.
If your boyfriend loves you, he will probably ask for
reconciliation or start begging for a second chance. Yes, we know this
is a difficult situation and you feel like you are going to cave in any
minute now. To stop yourself from doing something like that, remind
yourself of the reasons for the break up. If you are completely sure
this is the best step for the both of you, there is no point going back
on your word. This is absolutely the best way to break up with your
boyfriend - nice and clean.
Additionally, many girls make the mistake of telling their
boyfriends: let us remain friends after this. Do not ever do this
because it gives them the hope that you might want to get back together
with them. Yes, it might be torturous for him not to be able to see you
anymore but in the long run, this is the best possible way to break up
with him. You might want to be there for him during this difficult
period but remember that you are the cause of his sadness. Let him seek
out other friends who will console and help him forget you.
Yes, breaking up is never easy. It is even more difficult to do it
nicely so that there is minimal damage or hurt on both sides. However,
if you are absolutely sure that it is bound to happen anyway, you should
initiate the break up and just get on with it. Remember that there is
no good in dragging out something that is not going to last the whole
mile anyway. This is the best way for the both of you. If you have made
up your mind that this is the only and best course of action, take a
deep breath and just go for it.